Are you waiting for permission?
Are you waiting for someone else to wave the magic wand and give you the go ahead?
Are you sitting on the sideline waiting to get called into the game?
If you are then you are giving away a very important power. And chances are you are giving it away to anybody who will take it.
You are in charge of your life. You are in charge of your dreams. And you are in charge of living your life. It is up to you.
No one else can give you the consent to move forward.
Usually it is fear that holds us back and is the force behind giving our power away. It is fear of living the life you want despite what others might say. It is fear of what others may think that can stop you in your tracks from living your dream life. It is fear that cripples your ability to take that leap of faith.
But the honest truth is that NO ONE can grant you that permission. It really is up to you. Your passion and drive to be who you are meant to be and live your life according to the purpose you innately know is yours must come from you! And that can be the rub – because chances are this is the hardest permission to grant yourself.
If you feel like you are on the edge of really claiming your life on your terms, but are hesitant, take a moment and check in with yourself. If you know, like you know, like you know, that you have a purpose driving your life what is stopping you from taking that first step?
Some things that will help:
- Write out a purpose statement. Write what you feel is your drive to live life. Review this statement often. It will keep things ignited when fear and doubt try to snuff out your fire.
- If you are unsure if you are on the right track write down a list of pros and cons to making a change. Clarity comes from seeing things in black and white.
- Journal about how you are feeling. List your obstacles. List your fears. Then review and see if they are constructs to keep you from taking action, or actual issues to be handled.
- Write a list of 3-5 next steps. And know that baby steps are totally ok. Making a change or transition does not have to be only grandiose moves.
These ideas will help form a road map to get you moving. The cliché is true – often the first step is the hardest. Don’t let fear rob you of your purpose and happiness to live life on your terms. The world is waiting for you. Take that step!
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What a great article to remind me that I have permission to go forward. Sometimes it feels like I’m sitting at a green light, but I’m in a haze and just not moving. 🙂
I have definitely been there too Gill! And yes, you do have permission! 😀
A. Lynn, this is such an inspirational article! I love your suggestion of journaling. I know journaling is not for everyone, but I have found it to be very helpful.
Thank you so much Robin. It took me a while to warm up to journaling, but it definitely is helpful.
You are right, it’s often hard to give this permission to ourselves. Fear blocks our forward movement, but if we change the way we think, we change our response to fear. Your tips help us change the way we think.
Perception is key! And I agree – fear can be paralyzing! I am glad you liked the tips! 🙂
Moving forward is never a problem for me. I am the type that will do and sometimes it can be detrimental, but often times the best thing I ever did. All in all, I have never looked back with regret at anytime I stepped up….good or bad outcome
That is awesome. A piece of advice that I have treasured is that it is sometimes better to ask for forgiveness than permission from others. 🙂
Love your post! It is all up to me! I’m the only one who can stop me. When I believe in something, I pursue it vigorously. It doesn’t matter what others think! Awesome Post!!!!!
Thank you Don! Once we take that power squarely on our shoulders nothing can stop us!
What a wonderful and inspirational blog. I know there are things (and people) who keep me from fulfilling my dreams. This gives me motivation to move forward every day.
I am so glad!! Go get ’em girl! 🙂
I have always been a self starter and like encouraging and supporting others.
That is awesome Roz. The world benefits from awesome people like you!
I find that writing stuff down is very powerful. More so than to say it in your head. There’s always something that happens when I put my thoughts on paper and it usually happens the way I want it to.
I totally agree Nate! You can somewhat see your thoughts come to life when they are in black and white. It can be very powerful!
I was told at some point that I had a magic wand, and that all I had to do was wave it and I could do whatever I wanted. It’s the mental equivalent of giving myself permission. It’s worked … all my life. 😉
I love that image Sharon!
Write down your purpose. Done. I have in fact created a vision board and a road map of where I want to go. Thanks for letting me feel I’m on the right track. 🙂 Joining in groups with like-minded people also helps boost your motivation on a daily basis plus it gives you the inspiration to keep going and never stop. 🙂
You definitely ARE on the right track! I am glad to be in your tribe! 🙂
Awesome advice! I agree 100%, we always have to keep moving forward no matter what.
Even baby steps are better than no steps! Just keep on moving! 🙂
i love your thoughts here thanks for sharing
You are so welcome Jessica. And thanks for stopping by!
Great article! It certainly is thought provoking! I am in the process of making a number of changes and I know that in the past, fear is what stopped me. No more! 😉 I like what you wrote: “Don’t let fear rob you of your purpose and happiness to live life on your terms.” Thanks so much for sharing!
You are so welcome Alexandra! Fear can be a dogged follower. But getting it handled will keep you moving forward – even if it is in baby steps.
Interesting how often fear paralyzes people from making any step at all. They rob themselves of many life opportunities by not taking responsibility and stepping into their own lives. Great post that reminds us all to step up and step in to create the life we are wanting to live.
Thanks Beverly! Just accepting that you can create your life according to your terms is powerful. And freeing!
We are the only creator of our life and deciding for what we have to do. Thank you for this great article.
You are welcome Carele! We must keep the power to create our lives for ourselves. Don’t surrender it to others!
Truly believed in this steps to better your life and challenge yourself to be the best that you can and be happy with it. Although I maybe contented with my life now, I still will follow these steps now to get through things I still want done in my life. Life will always be a challenge and following these great steps will help get anyone there!
You can do it!!!!! 🙂
This is a great post! We are often afraid of grabbing the lifestyle we want, but after the first step you’re on your way to happiness. I like your idea that we do not need permission to live! Thank you for sharing!
Thanks Meryl! You are so welcome! Who better to go get the lifestyle we want than ourselves?! 🙂