I saw a great quote recently: An optimist is someone who figures that taking a step backward after taking a step forward is not a disaster, it’s a cha-cha.
Have you ever felt like you (temporarily) lost your mojo…. Then found it, only to feel derailed again?
This has been my life recently.
I have previously written about finding your mojo again. (Check out my post on Drinking My Own Champagne for tips.) But this back and forth kind of threw me. I mean, I write about this stuff. I know this motivational, transformational, living your purpose stuff! What the heck??!!
But as I continue to let this journey unfold – yes, unfold, I am coming to some realizations.
- Mojo cannot be forced. It just can’t. It can be nurtured. It can be encouraged. But when you are in a “Cha-Cha Season” it just cannot be forced.
- The imbalance MEANS something! So stop and just listen. This can be very difficult when you want to get back into the zone again… and fast. Also see bullet above!
- Be patient. Another toughy for me! Things are obviously in flux. Something is morphing, changing, adjusting. Ride it out. This is a cocoon time. Something is brewing and getting ready to get awesome IF we allow it to!
- The future steps of this journey are really unchartered territory. It can be easier when the path is crystal clear. But in this time of back and forth the next step can be quite blurry. And that’s ok. Just recognize it for the unclear path that it is.
- Listen to your heart/intuition/gut. The nudge to continue forward is a sign that you are on the right (albeit unclear) path. This is where faith comes in to play as well. If your signs are coming from your core – it is a signal. The trick will be to make sure they are coming from your core. It’s easy to place signals that let you take the easy way out as coming from your core. Be honest!
- Take stock of what you know like you know like you know… but might not be able to explain. I know I want to be of service. I know I want to share and help others get to where they want to be. I know I am grateful for EVERYTHING in my life – even this uncertain time. I know like I know like I know I am heading in the right direction – even if I can’t necessarily describe my next step.
- Keep moving! Fear will rear its ugly little face at this time. Just look at it, smile, and take a step to the right or left to get by it. Don’t stay stationary playing the staring game. You will lose! Look past the fear. You got this!
As I processed these realizations my apprehension and frustration have turned into excitement. I am not 100% sure where I am headed, but I know it’s going to be good. I’m an optimist… and becoming an awesome cha-cha dancer as well!
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Great insight. So many people jump to conclusions when things aren’t going quite right. Thinking they have failed, done something wrong, or are just not cut out to do or be a certain thing. Stepping back and realizing there are a million and one reasons why the path is not clear straight ahead is the first step in finding your way forward once again. Good stuff!
I totally agree! And those assumptions can stop someone from really sharing their gifts and talents, and thus reaching their full potential. And that would be sad!
Thanks for sharing another great Post!
You are so welcome Barbara. Thanks for stopping by!
I’m not much of a dancer… didn’t learn how when I was young. Our son and his family do the ‘western swing’. They tried to teach me but I’m not sure I ever really got the hang of it. I love to watch them have so much fun with it. I suspect the cha-cha is similar… lots of fun. So, yes, let’s have fun and enjoy the steps forward, to the side, backward and forward as we work our online business. Keep moving and we will get there.
I agree Pat – keep moving…. and groovin’! 🙂
I love it, I had never thought about the going forward and then back a few steps in such a great light. Cha-Cha away. I know I’ve been doing that a lot recently.
Thanks Heather! I just loved the quote when I saw it. It made so much sense! 🙂
Oh yes! Stare fear right in the face, it’s exactly like a bully. Show up, take courage and do what you have to do to overcome! YAY!!! 🙂
Great point Norma! Fear is a big ol’ mean bully! And we’ll just dance our way around it and move on!
I’m so happy you are “moving”!!! It always takes time to figure these things out, but it’s worth it!
It does take time. And I agree – it is totally worth it. Movement keeps the growth happening!
I go in phases also, sometimes I am so motivated I move through things like butter. Other times it is like I have cement on my feet.
Isn’t that the truth Scott! At least we keep pushing forward! That’s the important part!
Wonderful blog about connecting with yourself and listening to you internal music – even it it is a Cha Cha Cha taking you forward and back. I love the concept of trusting yourself and listening to the music.
Thank you Ines! Our intuition is the best guide. I guess we can look at it as our conductor for the music score of our life!
Glad you got to slow down and go with the flow. It is exciting to not know your journey beforehand. Just stay tuned in.
Staying tuned in is key Roz! And excitement is so much better than fear! It makes it easier to keep going. 🙂
Love this post. We all get derailed at times and it can be hard to get back on track. Fear and uncertainty can be very powerful forces. You are right to keep moving forward. No matter how small your steps maybe. Every one of them counts. Best wishes to you and your success.
Thanks Meryl! As you know I am a HUGE fan of baby steps. I agree that any movement forward (or a little cha cha back and forth) is better than stagnating.